Madeline Levine quotes:

Adolescents need tremendous support as they go about the task of figuring out their identities, their future selves. Too often what they get is intrusion. Intrusion and support are two fundamentally different processes: support is about the needs of the child, intrusion is about the needs of the parent.

Our children cannot be assumed to follow in our footsteps, assuage our losses, or compensate for our inadequacies.