Kelly McGonigal quotes:

Self-compassion-being supportive and kind to yourself, especially in the face of stress and failure-is associated with more motivation and better self-control.

For most of us, the classic test of willpower is resisting temptation, whether the temptress is a doughnut, a cigarette, a clearance sale, or a one-night stand. When people say, "I have no willpower," what they usually mean is, "I have trouble saying no when my mouth, stomach, heart, or (fill in your anatomical part) wants to say yes.

You can deal with stressful life experiences with strength from past ones.

Go after what it is that creates meaning in your life and then trust yourself to handle the stress that follows.

When you choose to connect with others under stress, you can create resilience,

Chasing meaning is better for your health than trying to avoid discomfort.

The is a secret for greater self-control, the science points to one thing: the power of paying attention.

My favorite definition of the mindful path is the one the reveals itself as you walk down it. You cannot find the path until you step on to it.

According to the American Psychological Association, the most effective stress-relief strategies are exercising or playing sports, praying or attending a religious service, reading, listening to music, spending time with friends or family, getting a massage, going outside of ra walk, meditating or doing yoga, and spending time with a creative hobby. (The least effective strategies are gambling, shopping, smoking, drinking, eating, playing video games, surfing the Internet, and watching TV or movies for more than two hours.

Neuroscientists have discovered that when you ask the brain to meditate, it gets better, not just at meditating, but at a wide range of self-control skills Over time, [meditators'] brains become finely tuned willpower machines.

The biggest enemies of willpower: temptation, self-criticism, and stress. (...) these three skills â??self-awareness, self-care, and remembering what matter mostâ?? are the foundation for self-control.

The development of willpower -I will, I won't and I want- may define what it means to be human.

We all have the tendency to believe self-doubt and self-criticism, but listening to this voice never gets us closer to our goals. Instead, try on the point of view of a mentor or good friend who believes in you, wants the best for your, and will encourage you when you feel discouraged.

We wrongly but persistently expect to make different decisions tomorrow than we do today

When you choose to view your stress response as helpful, you create the biology of courage.